LEGAL BROTHELS VERSUS DATING APPS
LEGAL BROTHELS VERSUS DATING APPS: has sex changed for the better or worse?
Uber has done it to the taxi industry, Airbnb has done to it hotels – now there are rumbles that dating apps are destroying the legal brothel industry. Social networking apps like Tinder and Grindr have introduced society to casual sex, making it convenient and easy to find like-minded people for sex just by using your fingertips. No need to try those eye-rolling pickup lines or to get into a slurry, alcohol-filled daze to front up to that stunning girl at the bar. So, have dating apps really helped or hindered our sex lives, or created other unintended consequences for society? Everyone seems to have an opinion and they seem to rage around the following ideas:
They’re increasing risks for women’s safety.
It seems more people are meeting like-minded strangers for short-term sexual flings. The anonymous simplicity of these encounters means we’re not always following the old rules for blind and online dates, when in fact we should be more strictly enforcing them. For example, always meeting in a public place and not at home, always telling a friend where you’re going and who you’re intending to meet. This casual attitude puts women, and sometimes men, at higher risk of something going horribly wrong. In the UK for instance, recent research produced worrying figures regarding Tinder and Grindr related crimes: In the past two years, more than 400 offences, including rape, sexual assault and robbery were directly linked to dating apps and these were just the reported ones. There’s no reason to think it’s any different here in Melbourne. Clearly, a major downside to dating apps is the tendency for people to think below the belt and not with their brains and it’s fair to assume that wanting instant gratification leads to swiping right with a degree of tunnel vision. These apps are also copping plenty of deserved flak for a rise in sexually transmitted diseases. This is probably the time to point out that practising safe sex with strangers is a good idea. In fact, it’s the best idea. You don’t know their health status (often, neither do they, unlike the girls in legal brothels) or how many people they’ve had unprotected sex with before you. Is it really worth it?
They’re lowering barriers towards illegal sex and human trafficking.
The world of illegal sex-trafficking has embraced mobile/internet app technology. There are peer review services, mobile friendly directories, and other clever apps that promote illegal sex-work services. These apps make it easy for a customer to find an illegal sex-worker, and making it dangerously easy for pimps, human traffickers and illegal sex-workers to profit in the exploitation and trade of women and young girls through the simplicity and anonymity of disposable cell-phones. The legal brothels in Melbourne are well regulated to control the insidious hand of criminals. As has been written elsewhere, these legal brothels, and the safeguards built into their business models are being unintentionally, or intentionally, eroded by these apps.
They’re encouraging the rise of a “hookup” culture.
Hooking up for no-strings-attached sex was happening long before Tinder or Grindr and even before the invention of the internet. But, social media has opened many doors in terms of ease of access. With these apps, and to a lesser extent, online dating sites, setting up a meeting with another person happens fast and you don’t even need too many interpersonal skills. It also means you don’t have to trawl bars and venues trying to impress strangers with your embarrassing pick-up lines mentioned before. Using an app means there’s a nearly endless list of eligible people close by that want exactly what you want, or so they say. But, unlike visiting a legal brothel, it’s a bit of a lottery in terms of looks and personality with photoshop enhanced ladies all looking like ageless spring goddesses who just want to walk on a golden beach and make love in the sand… with just you. For money.
Living in this hook-up culture makes us a lot more relaxed about engaging in casual sex, bringing about a change in attitude toward relationships and we’re feeling freer to experiment. If you’ve ever used a dating app or travelled down the road of online dating, you’ll know it’s overrun with fraudsters and time wasters, just like real life. Sure, they’re exposing you to more people, but in doing so, exposing you to potential risks. That’s a choice you make. The sexual landscape is changing with the technological advances, but we should not dispense with the safeguards of the legal brothels in Melbourne and risk reverting to the dark days of facilitating the trafficking of young women, or in any way adding to the upward trend in sexually transmitted diseases in our community.
Williamstown has Melbourne’s finest Legal Brothel – The Cherry Tree Garden. Come visit us.
What People Say
I am a newbie and have only been to this place twice. But every time I went there they always treat me very nice and didn’t discriminate of my awkward appearance. Instead, the girls take a more active move trying to please me. Thanks ladies!
I usually only have a regular session but that night I wanted to have something new and I negotiate with the girl with a slightly increased fee. Damn it was amazing! I didn’t pay much extra but the service, Maggie gave to me was like double. I’ll be back again soon girl!
I’ve been to Cherry tree garden a few times now and always have an amazing experience each time. The girls are all pretty making it so hard to choose like I want them all!!! I went with Candy this time and she was not disappointed! She knows how to please me. The experience forces me to go back to her again and again. Highly recommended!
This place is truly amazing. Today was my second visit and can’t describe in words about my experience with Momo. That girl is really a gem. Gorgeous girl giving her attention the entire time. I can’t wait for the next visit.
Hello Lily, how are you? I was in yesterday & I had an hour with a beautiful lady who has a beautiful soul, she is so delightful & her name is Susan she’s everything I prayed for & more. I will be back to spend time with Susan again. As I turned into the driveway I can see how beautiful the garden looks & as I rang the doorbell a nice gentleman answered & his name is rob & it was nice to meet him, I explained to rob the lady I wanted & rob suggested Susan. As I walked into the reception area I can see just how beautiful your establishment is with all the furnishings the decor & the rooms are absolutely beautiful. I also liked the music that was playing too as I walked in. Please say thank you to rob & Susan. Thank you too lily. I already started reading your book too. I’ll be back again to see Susan. Take care, be safe always & have a nice day. Kind regards, Harry (December 14/2019, with permission)
Dear Lily, please pass on my thanks to the wonderful Susan. She was a delight, kind, funny and beautiful. My first time at your establishment and was amazing. So many beautiful girls and so friendly when you first meet them. I will certainly be back and looking forward to my next visit with Susan. Have a great long weekend to you and everyone at the Cherry Tree Gardens. Steven (Sept 27/2019)
After reading all the reviews about The Cherry Tree Garden, I phoned and booked for a 30 minutes massage, I spoke with nicely spoken man who booked me at the time I asked for and met me at the door on my arrival, inside the door it was full of quality furnishings in each room, one of the beautiful ladies took me to one of many nice rooms, the room was very very clean and the soft music was so nice and relaxing, the best massage I have had in a very long time. The staff at The Cherry Tree Garden are very nice and approachable, thank you as you will be seeing me again and again 🙂